"Boys Shack. Men Make Homes."

I read that quote above, in the new book "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man" by Steve Harvey.

I was in the middle of Sam's club, and had heard a few pieces of an interview or two, so I picked it up to peruse the book. I flipped through it, and had two things jump out at me. The first, was the title of this blog.

Truly the above could apply to both sexes. As I was cleaning my house and picking up the kids toys, pondering life as a single woman with some very special men (or are they boys?) in my life, I started to think about what it is I truly want, if anything, from these men. Is it friendship? Am I truly just enjoying their time as a friend? Do I want anything more to develop? Am I content with the status quo?

In Nashville, and here too, I know plenty of boys. I know plenty of boys who masquerade as men as well. After all the mental sorting, I know a handful of men.

I know what I want in life. I want to make a home with someone who is my best friend, confidante and lover. Someone who will accept me for all my positives and negatives. Someone who will know when to give me space, and when I just want to be held. Someone who loves my children, as they would their own. Someone who my kids love right back. Someone who loves me that I love in return. That's what I want.

I don't want to rush ANY of that above paragraph either. I'm in NO hurry to find said person, develop said relationship, or any of that good stuff. As far as I'm concerned, the best stuff in life takes time to grow, develop and mature.

It's true... the things that take time to mature are wine, cheese and men. Once you get a hold of a good one, you savor the moments and make it last.

The second quote that caught my eye was actually a chapter title. "The Ninety Day Rule". This rule makes a decent amount of sense, and I like the way he put it. The premise, is to wait ninety days before sex. Now, that might seem like a long time, but... it does fly by... and I agree with what Steve said in his book- that men know that a good woman is worth waiting for.

Going further, if someone just wanted me for sex, and didn't want to develop a relationship or get to know me, then where's the benefit for me? I can satisfy any itch I need to scratch... on my own.

What he also said in the book was to think about Cleopatra, or Helen of Troy... women who brought men to their knees, had them fighting wars... for what? The love of a woman/Sex. I think a lot of women do know their own power, but rarely exercise it to the best of their ability.
I'm sometimes guilty of not utilizing my woman-power... (Yes, I did watch She-Ra and loved it - By the power of Greyskull!)

I think getting to know someone over a 90 day period is completely logical, and in the interest of a long-term relationship, probably the best thing to do. In a world where everything is "on-demand", waiting to develop a sexual relationship is "worth the wait" and makes you, as a woman, an instant rarity and treasure.

So that's what I was thinking about as I was cleaning. I took a break to write it down so I wouldn't forget it (that happens often).

Gotta finish cleaning up the house before the kids get home...